It Is What It Is

I had a boss that used this phrase seemingly a thousand times and I found it to be completely worn out.  I have always believed that nothing is what it is as we have the power, the ability to change our circumstance…right?! Perhaps there is an exception to this rule. I recently watched a video on four families struggling with frontotemporal dementia and when a patient said, “It is what it is”, the light bulb inside of me turned on. YES. THAT IS IT! As a caregiver, I now find these four words to be my mantra.


There is nothing that I can do to change the situation.  I am unable to cure my husband of his working diagnosis of Frontotemporal Dementia.  The disease really is what it is. What I can do, however, is take care of me.  When you board an aircraft you are given a demonstration on what to do should an emergency arise and there is a change in cabin pressure.  An oxygen mask falls down and the very first thing you do is secure your own mask before helping others.  As a caregiver, you need to do the same thing; secure your own oxygen mask first. You are not capable of giving 100% if you are tired, angry, frustrated, sad or lonely.  Take care of you because it truly is what it is.



About Cruz2Lose

I am witty, intelligent and still manage to keep my sense of humor no matter what life throws at me!
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