Painful life experiences can leave scars upon your soul. Where do you begin to heal the hurt? It begins with getting up each morning and making a conscious effort to find the positive. It starts with changing your focus from the hurt and pain to the better days ahead. That sounds easy doesn’t it. Simply put, it’s not.
How do you forget death, abuse, betrayal, or whatever burden you are carrying? I won’t tell you that you that you ever actually forget those things but I can tell you that you can move forward, you can live a happier life.
- Acknowledge and validate your experience. Often times we have to overcome enormous obstacles and feel even more pain when we are not validated.
- Forgive. This does not mean that you accept the bad behavior of others but rather you recognize the weaknesses in humans.
- Begin each day on a positive note by either reading a positive affirmation or by doing something positive for yourself.
- Donate your time to those less fortunate. Giving to others in itself can be almost medicinal.
- Be good to yourself. Make time daily to do something that you enjoy.
- Make a list of wonderful moments in your life and read them often. Make a list of what moments you would like to see happen in your life and focus on them.
- Recognize that not every situation that appears negative is negative. I recently fretted over a career choice. Had I not had that experience, I never would have landed the incredible position that I am in now. Additionally , my first relationship ended quite painfully and I thought I would never recover from that wound. The ending of that relationship was the beginning of the miracle that I named Anthony, my son with my second husband. Yes, it is difficult to see what the possible positive outcomes could be when we are in the middle of what seems to be a nightmare but if we allow the dust to settle in our minds, often times there is enough light to get us through.
- Finally, love your self. You have heard it said before but it is the most important step of all.
~The Possibilitarian’s Light