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Sit quietly for a moment and think about what you carry around inside of you.  What weighs you down?  What detracts from your happiness?  Write it down, take a look at what you wrote.  How do you go about releasing the baggage that you are carrying around with you?  That really is the hard part isn’t it?  Letting go.

I have carried more baggage in my life than Hartsfield-Jackson Atlanta International Airport’s baggage terminal.  I resembled Marley from A Christmas Carol with his heavy chain and burdens to carry except, I wasn’t dead.  I was still very  much alive.  Orphaned at almost four years old, a difficult childhood, abuse, failed marriage all left me with bitterness and heavy loads of guilt.  It wasn’t that long ago that I crawled inside my own head and heart and looked very deeply into the darkness, I knew that I had to change my thinking.

When you make a conscious decision to let go of the hurt and pain, you are making a decision to transform your life.  This is not an easy process, especially if you have schlepped the negativity around with you for an extended amount of time.  Letting go requires effort and it usually doesn’t happen overnight.  I found that the first step in letting go is forgiveness.  Forgiving someone for wronging you does not mean that you condone their bad behavior, it means that you are choosing to no longer allow the bitterness and hurt to eat away at you.  Forgiveness is a powerful tool in healing and moving forward.  If forgiveness isn’t possible, acknowledge that you have been wronged, validate your feelings and start releasing the hurt.

I have said it before.  I am a firm believer in affirmations.  When you are trying to change something about yourself, it is important to feed yourself the positive information throughout the day.  Replace the negative thought with a positive one.  Place a positive affirmation by your bedside in the morning and let that be the first thing you read when you wake up.  Carry another affirmation with you in your purse or wallet and read it during the day. Remind yourself that you are strong, remind yourself that you are good and that the possibilities for your life are endless.

If you have baggage and your heart and soul is tired from carrying the burden, take those steps to lighten your load. It is possible to change your life by changing your perspective, by turning your negative thoughts into positive ones.  This does not mean that you will never have a difficult moment or a negative thought, but when you do this consistently you will find that it is easier to rebound from difficult circumstance in your life.  I have released a lot of painful experiences that have occurred in my life, and while I still have ongoing challenges, I know that I am not going to carry the baggage.

Anything is possible.

The Possibilitarian’s Light


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10 Responses to Baggage

  1. living4bliss says:

    Great post.

    Those of us who have been deeply hurt have a hard time letting go of the hurt. If we don’t let it go, we cannot move on. As you said, this is really hard to do, the pain almost becomes a destructive friend, but if we are to move on, we must.


  2. Very interesting, I kind of feel like in that picture with carrying the heart, that made me stop and think. Time to get rid of “baggage”. Thank you for making me think!


    • cruz2lose says:

      Anne, thank you so much for following my blog. I always hope that when I write that I can inspire someone…I wish you courage and strength in whatever situation you are dealing with. I am always here if you need someone!


  3. living4bliss says:

    I could hardly keep the secret yesterday, Beth. I have nominated this blog for the Very Inspiring Blogger Award.

    Go to to claim your award.


  4. Currie Rose says:

    Great post! I wrote about forgiveness recently and came across some words, “Forgivness isn’t something we do for others, we do it so we can get well and move on.” It is so important to just let go. Sometimes the heavy weight of the past can really keep me from believing in myself enough to achieve my dreams and I am finding forgiveness and affirmations are so important to helping me remember that I am worthy… no matter what my past holds, each day is a chance to begin anew and go after what lives so vividly in my heart.

    Thank you for your post! Have a great week.


  5. cruz2lose says:

    Thank you for stopping by CurrieRose. I can say with all honesty that I carried around a lot of pain for many years that held me back and kept me from moving forward. I have had to work hard to forgive and to learn to love and appreciate myself….I am a work in process. I understand how important it is to remind yourself that you are worthy and I am so glad to hear that affirmations help you as well. You are worthy, no matter what , you are worthy. Hugs to you!



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