Sit quietly for a moment and think about what you carry around inside of you. What weighs you down? What detracts from your happiness? Write it down, take a look at what you wrote. How do you go about releasing the baggage that you are carrying around with you? That really is the hard part isn’t it? Letting go.
I have carried more baggage in my life than Hartsfield-Jackson Atlanta International Airport’s baggage terminal. I resembled Marley from A Christmas Carol with his heavy chain and burdens to carry except, I wasn’t dead. I was still very much alive. Orphaned at almost four years old, a difficult childhood, abuse, failed marriage all left me with bitterness and heavy loads of guilt. It wasn’t that long ago that I crawled inside my own head and heart and looked very deeply into the darkness, I knew that I had to change my thinking.
When you make a conscious decision to let go of the hurt and pain, you are making a decision to transform your life. This is not an easy process, especially if you have schlepped the negativity around with you for an extended amount of time. Letting go requires effort and it usually doesn’t happen overnight. I found that the first step in letting go is forgiveness. Forgiving someone for wronging you does not mean that you condone their bad behavior, it means that you are choosing to no longer allow the bitterness and hurt to eat away at you. Forgiveness is a powerful tool in healing and moving forward. If forgiveness isn’t possible, acknowledge that you have been wronged, validate your feelings and start releasing the hurt.
I have said it before. I am a firm believer in affirmations. When you are trying to change something about yourself, it is important to feed yourself the positive information throughout the day. Replace the negative thought with a positive one. Place a positive affirmation by your bedside in the morning and let that be the first thing you read when you wake up. Carry another affirmation with you in your purse or wallet and read it during the day. Remind yourself that you are strong, remind yourself that you are good and that the possibilities for your life are endless.
If you have baggage and your heart and soul is tired from carrying the burden, take those steps to lighten your load. It is possible to change your life by changing your perspective, by turning your negative thoughts into positive ones. This does not mean that you will never have a difficult moment or a negative thought, but when you do this consistently you will find that it is easier to rebound from difficult circumstance in your life. I have released a lot of painful experiences that have occurred in my life, and while I still have ongoing challenges, I know that I am not going to carry the baggage.
Anything is possible.
The Possibilitarian’s Light