I can’t recall a time where my life wasn’t marked with misfortune. I became very angry and bitter and chose to wallow in self-pity, I did so for many years. As one disaster after another hit I eventually began to notice a pattern, I always came out wiser, stronger. I also noticed something incredible that I had never taken note of before, I came out ahead. Every single time that something negative happened, a positive was left in its place.
The best advice that someone once gave me was asking the question, “Is this going to matter one year from now? How about five years from now?” When you are feeling like you are taking one step forward and two steps back, ask yourself that very question. Is this going to matter one year from now? Changing your perception, in the face of adversity, can help you get through a difficult time with courage and strength.
The “why me?!” attitude and mind-set is one that is focused on unproductive self-pity and negativity, I can say that from experience. If you really put some thought into the question of “Why me?!”, what you are really asking is “Why not someone else?!”. I don’t know many people who would actually ask why their misfortune wasn’t placed upon someone else but essentially that is what you are inquiring about when you utter those two words.
How DO you change your thinking? Replace “Why me?!” with “I have the strength and courage to get through this.”. You can “Why me?!” or you can accept the challenge and feel stronger when the hurricane has passed. I wasted a lot of precious time in my life wondering why such burdens were placed on me, pondering why I had to be the one to go through such strife when it appeared to me that others seemed to have it so easy. Age brings wisdom and my horizons are so much broader than my own self. Change your thinking and you change your life. I did.
The Possibilitarian’s Light